Is it really worth it? Is it really worth giving up your desires to satisfy those of another person? People often think that in order to have a lasting and happy relationship they should compromise, settle, give in. But after all is it really worth the effort? Now I am talking about the kind of compromise where – - well maybe compromise is a misnomer, I really mean self sacrifice, for compromise can be a good thing in a meet- you -half -way situation. I generally believe that people are selfish and the person who is used to having it his/her way, will continue to do so or continue to expect that. What they might not realize (or be bothered to do anything about it) is that though it’s nice to have everything their way…it’s costing the other person. All that bending over backwards takes energy, believe it or not that might need to be rewarded (in the form of reciprocation.)

Now as I said, people are selfish, the “bender” only does that because he/she receives some kind of personal benefit, maybe the pleasure of having the other around, the satisfaction of having pleased the other but… is this really enough? The “bender” is one day going to want his due which…hmmm might not be forthcoming. Yea I know I’m a pessimist, I have very little faith in people, but why would anyone give up the high life to actually start reciprocating? It’s just not going to happen…so why do it in the first place? Is it really worth it?